I was just almost on the radio (HOT 99.5, the Kane Show). I was next up, but they had to cut to a commercial. I am still shaking and have sweaty palms.
Kane said that 12% of couples don't sleep in the same bed. He couldn't believe that number was so high, and said that surely we are no longer a society where ANY couple sleeps separately like on I Love Lucy. I called in right away, because I have been married 18 years and have never slept in the same bed with Jerry. Ok, when we were first married we tried it with no success: Jerry "wiggles" about every 15 seconds in his sleep, and it is like trying to sleep on a small boat in a storm. And there is no bed in existence that won't succumb to his "wiggling". I have tried them all out in stores. We even tried sleeping on the floor, but then there's the awful snoring. Plus he is just a lump that gets in the way when I wish to sprawl. I think people must generally sleep better when they are alone in bed.
Right now I sleep in our bedroom bed, and Jerry sleeps on the couch. He doesn't mind. Someday I would like to get two gorgeous extra long twin beds and put them side-by-side in our bedroom, and force Jerry to use his anti-snoring CPAP machine, but in the mean time we are perfectly content with our arrangement. I recommend it, even.
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I say you go girl. There certainly is nothing wrong with sleeping in separate beds or rooms. I have known many many couples that sleep in separate rooms. Not that I would know this MOM (ha ha), but I sleep way better when I am in bed with Stephen. I know he disagrees because I snore and I'm sure he would not mind this separate room arrangement in our future. I personally would not be happy if we were married and slept in separate beds/rooms, but if it was a must for him to sleep, I certainly would not deny him that. By the way he snores LOUDLY, but the difference is I can sleep through it. Again, MOM not that I would know this!!
There is no way that Sam and I could sleep in any bed smaller than a king size for sure. In fact, we almost always have separate beds at hotels. The king size bed works out okay but Sam still has a loft bed in his office for if one of us has a cough or something.
My sister-in-laws parents did exactly what you said you want to do. They got the long (or oversized) twin beds and put them together. She actually made the bed up each day so that it looked like one bed, but underneath they had thier own sheets and blankets. I actually crave Bill's body heat and wish we slept closer to each other. We have a king and after so many years of sleeping on it we have our own indentations on each side with a big hump in the middle. So sleeping with our bodies touching doesn't happen very often. I am most content when the dog sleeps in bed with me and keeps me warm. Bill and I for the past 20 years though have only actually slept in the same bed for about 3 hours each night. He comes to bed at 2 after getting off work and I get up at 5. This will all change starting on Tuesday when he starts his new job. We will sleep together for a full 8 hours. Maybe we will get twin beds too.
John has been mainly sleeping in our living room recliner for the past year and a half due to chronic back pain. This worked out fine until our little baby was born. Now I'm all alone on baby night shift. He tries to join me in the king-size as much as possible so he can help out, along with a half-dozen strategically arranged pillows. When he's in the recliner, I just knock on the floor (his ceiling) if I need his assistance. I would agree that I sleep better when he's not in the bed, but his absence usually signals an open invitation to my middle son to join me, and he's much harder to sleep with on account of his wild flailing which often results in me getting kicked in the back or head. And, of course, there's the baby who generally makes sure I don't sleep well no matter who is or isn't in the room. *sigh* We are considering the two twins idea, with John's being adjustable for his convalescent comfort.
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